One of the biggest “do we or don’t we?” questions when planning your wedding day is: should we do a first look? If you’ve heard of it but aren’t quite sure what the hype is about, here’s the deal—a first look is when you and your partner see each other before the ceremony for a private little moment (and usually some amazing photos).

So… is it a good idea? Let’s break it down and help you decide what feels right for you two.

Team First Look – YAY!

1. A Sweet, Private Moment Together
It’s your chance to soak each other in before the whirlwind of the day starts. No guests, no pressure—just the two of you (and your photographer capturing the magic, of course). You can cry, laugh, exchange private vows, or just hug it out. Total feels.

2. Way More Chill Timeline
Doing a first look = getting a bunch of portraits, wedding party shots, and maybe even family pics done before the ceremony. That means after you say “I do,” you actually get to enjoy cocktail hour instead of sprinting from photo to photo.

3. Calms the Nerves
If you’re the anxious type (*raises hand*), seeing your person before the ceremony can totally ease the jitters. A quick hug and a deep breath together can make a huge difference.

4. Real, Raw Reactions
Without an audience, your first reactions are usually more genuine—and your photographer can capture every emotional, goofy, tearful second of it. These are often couples’ fave photos.

5. More Time Together!
Let’s be real—wedding days go by fast. A first look gives you a little extra one-on-one time before all the chaos begins.

Skipping the First Look – NAY!

1. You Love the Tradition
There’s something iconic about locking eyes for the first time at the altar. If that’s a moment you’ve always dreamed about, don’t mess with it!

2. The Suspense is So Worth It
Building up to that big ceremony reveal adds drama—in the best way. You’ll both be bursting with excitement when you finally see each other.

3. You Want a Slow, Chill Morning
Doing a first look usually means starting hair, makeup, and prep earlier. If the idea of a relaxed, slower-paced morning is more your vibe, then skipping it might be better.

4. You’re All About the Big Moment
Some couples feel a first look steals a bit of thunder from that aisle reveal. If you want your guests to witness that raw, emotional moment, waiting until the ceremony is the move.

Final Thoughts

Okay, real talk from your photographer: timelines usually run smoother, couples are less stressed, and you get way more photos when there’s a first look involved. BUT! It’s 100% your call. If a cozy, private moment together before the ceremony sounds like your thing—go for it. If you’re all about the suspense and grand aisle reveal? Stick with tradition!

At the end of the day, choose what makes your heart happy. This is your love story—we’re just here to help tell it.